Talking along the lines of a previous blog involving mixed signals let’s talk about people who flake out on a date. Not just flake out but wait till the very last possible minute to cancel, like when you show up at the restaurant on time and get the message “I can’t make it.”
It’s one thing if something comes up, poo sometimes just hits the fan. It happens to all of us. But as I was sitting here at Tully’s at Westgate thinking about this illusive creature in the dating wild that seems to have no rhyme or reason for what it does I realized this is probably happened to both men and women. In the past I’ve had this happen where a woman is interested, we agree to meet, and as I’m out the door I text to say “I’m on my way.” 10 min. later I get a reply “I have my kids tonight.” (Previous blog post has already proven that women will use their kids as an excuse without hesitation, like a defense mechanism).
Here’s where the creature this “Flaker” starts it’s strange behavior (in my experience). They wait a couple days before they reach out to you again. The conversation starts up, you agree to a second attempt and they do it again, like a passive-aggressive strike attack.
The pattern continues. . .
Fool me once, shame on you
Fool me twice, shame on me
Fool me three times. . . am I Mathew Blades nice.
Fool me four times . . . you’re wanting to slap me in the face, kick my manhood and say “AJ WTF?!
What’s even more fascinating is that no matter how diverse this species is the behavior is exactly the same.
So how does one combat this creature in the dating wild? 2 strike rule. They do it once let them slide, poo happens. Second time, you strike with the passive aggressive attack and ignore them when they reach out to you after flaking.
Some questions for you guys. If you’re a Flaker, why? If you have flaked by accident, did you make it up to them? Did someone flake out on you and how did you handle it? Leave your comments below.