This is what happens when you don’t listen to that inner voice that says “Dude what the F$#% IS THE MATTER WITH YOU?! A while back I talked about how blind dates don’t work because most of the time it’s married women who rush to set up their single friends. Well I, for a brief moment, I lost my damn mind.
My friend Mary was determined to have a date this year for Valentines Day. Maybe hope for a love connection. Of course the married women in our circle of friends got all excited like a bunch of chickens during feeding time. She proceeds to tell them she’s looking for a funny, nice guy, just to have dinner and drinks with and see what happens.
Then the question was asked “AJ, do you know anyone that’s available?” Now if any of my friends ever listened to the show, read my blogs, or even listened to me at all, they would know how I feel about blind dates. This was a bad idea, I knew it, but the power of these hens pecking and squawking at me was just too much so I caved and I asked this buddy of mine that I work with. He had gotten out of a very bad relationship a while back and was ready to start dating again and was up for it.
So we met up with Mary the women and their husbands the weekend before Valentines Day for drinks. As we walked up to the table I saw the look on her face drop when she saw him “Yep” I thought “This is going to end badly.”
As the night progressed he really impressed all the chickens in the coup. Mary was being pleasant and my friend was really digging her. When he left for the bathroom the hens were clucking but it was obvious to me Mary wasn’t into the guy and just told the hens what they wanted to hear. This is when I got a little miffed.
“Mary, if you’re not into the guy, don’t waste his time or yours, it’s ok.” This comment I made got the women a little upset at me and their husbands, who were seeing the same thing I was, to look down at their drinks like they were ducking the line of fire. I guess when the guy says “I do” that’s when he loses his free will. Through the tiff I was having with the mother hens all Mary did was agree with them and tell me I’m wrong.
Well let’s just say Mary and I are not on the best of terms right now. She flaked. They talked for a few days, set up plans for Valentines Day, but she couldn’t make it due to her “kids.” She would continue to text him after that but every time he brought up going out she would dance around the issue until finally they were going to meet for drinks and dinner. But there were no drinks, no dinner, just a movie and home.
Bad enough she used her kids as an excuse, but to lead him on? WTF?! Oh and her Facebook has pictures of her with friends at some bar on Valentines Night. She friended my buddy on Facebook and he was the one who pointed out the pictures to me. He’s taken it in stride but I feel like hell for putting him through this. The women feel really bad, and now in the aftermath the husbands voice their opinion . . . bunch of pansies.
So the lesson here kids is always trust your gut instincts . . . that and don’t set up someone on a blind date on Valentines Day, or at all for that matter.