***I accidentally deleted the original blog post but found the word document I had written this on.  This blog originally titled "This Story Struck Me as Something Women Should Be Aware of" was the catalyst that got me writing my series "Dating, Bridging the Gap Between The Sexes."***

Ladies pay attention, you might learn something you didn’t know about guys.  The other night a friend of mine went out with some co workers to a bar for happy hour.  One of his co workers is a woman who he has a crush on.  She’s fully aware of how he feels and has said she doesn’t feel the same way.   They’ve even tried dating a few times but no spark for her.  Ok fine, it happens to all of us, we go out with someone who is a great catch, but just no spark.

    During the course of the night he gets his liquid courage up and buys a rose for her from that woman that roams around and has the ability to smell desperation from across the bar..  He hands his crush the rose and the words out of her mouth were “Oh you’re adorable.”  This strikes his mind like a slap in the face by a hand that’s been sitting in ice cold water for an hour.  Apparently she sees this has thrown him off and decides to give him a hug, and says “thank you, you’re such a good buddy.”

Again he feels slapped in the face, this time on the other cheek.

    This is when he proceeds to text me asking “is it me, or was I insulted.”  My answer . .  he was insulted.  Now I know she didn’t mean to insult him, but she did and here’s why.  It’s one thing to call a guy friend “adorable” or “buddy” when you are just friends.  But when you are fully aware the guy has feelings for you and you use those terms you’re saying to him “Yeah I know you’re a good catch, but I can do soooo much better.”
    Your dog is “adorable” your 5 year old nephew is your “buddy” not the dude who has a crush on you.  Just something to keep in mind.

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