In my adventures in online dating a few weeks back I met a very amazing woman. Cute, funny, head on her shoulders and does some great work in the community. We were dating for a few weeks and things were looking up. Then she soured on me. Didn't know why till she sent me a text saying "I like spending time with you but I don't like how you put little effort into your appearance. Don't mean to be harsh but it's the reason I'm avoiding you."
What she is talking about is our last 2 dates where I wore a shirt and shorts. In my mind I thought this was fine because we went to paint pottery on one date and the second was hanging with a friend of mine to see a live performance of Mystery Science Theater 3000 with a room of geeks. A few days later of not answering my calls or texts I got the above response.
Now understand I'm not angry about what happened. She has certain standards and that's fine, I get that. Everyone has standards. When I brought this up with Mathew Blades earlier this week he sided with her and wanted to talk about it on the air, get feedback from listeners and show me I was wrong. We are on the radio, this is what we do.
Most of you sided with me and thought she was being stuck up. On Facebook some got a little harsh and called her a b!t@# and I thought that was a bit much. If you were listening you know that neither Mathew nor myself slammed her at all. Like I said, I understand she has standards. She called me after the show about the Facebook posts and I explained we never used her name at all and I deleted the Facebook posts and apologized and told her I wasn't trying to be mean and that this was something we knew would be a great topic to talk about. She said she understood and I thought everything was cool. Till I came across her blog. Didn't know she had defriended me and made the following statement below as part of her blog about online dating. She's already met someone new and I hope everything works out.
What I find hilarious is some of the very untrue things she said about me. Welcome to the world of dating. . . ENJOY!
"The first guy is a radio personality on a morning talk show. My first thought was “Why is this guy on a dating website? He must network all the time with his job!” Well, that was only a small red flag. The biggest red flag was him showing up on the third date in sweat pants, a dirty white undershirt, not showered, hair a mess, and teeth not brushed.
Channel a homeless man and this is what this guy looked like. I asked why he showed up looking so rough, and his response was: “we’re only going to a movie!” Oh, okay!! well that’s fine. SO I went... Of course I went. I didn’t want to be super rude. He was very touchy, which I didn’t like. He smelled weird and hadn’t brushed his teeth! I finally made it home. I told him that I didn’t want to go out with him again because he lacked personal maintenance skills. I was polite about it…I thought I was polite about it.
Being the radio personality he is, he decided to blast me on air! The next morning he shares how he was broken up with because I was superficial! He didn’t use my name (Thank baby jesus). He did go on a rant about how he wasted money and could have been at home reading comics instead of wasting time with me. He then had people call in to share how they broke up with/been dumped by superficial shallow people.
After this rant he went to facebook and made a stink about it there. Being the outspoken person I am, I called him shortly after the facebook post. I informed this D-Bag that I did not break up with him because 3 dates does not constitute a committed relationship. RIGHT? It’s just hanging out. He was nice enough to delete his facebook rant and all the nasty comments from his groupies. Needless to say we are no longer talking or hanging out. I’ll take the hit of being called superficial and shallow, if that means wanting to date someone that invests enough time in himself to brush his teeth and put on clean clothes before a date!"