Been back on the online dating thing for a few months going through profiles quoting the weirdest s#!t I see and posting it on Facebook and I have come to the conclusion that people really don’t know what they want because their view of dating is “generic”. The ones that are too specific about what they want have been so burned by the past they come across as that crazy bitter old cat lady telling you to “GET OFF MY LAWN!”
If you do the online dating thing does this sound familiar? “I'm lookin' for a nice guy/girl who has some of the same interests. I enjoy being active, sports, hiking, live music, sporting events, wine/beer tasting, renting movies, hanging by my pool. . . “ how about “I work hard I play hard.” Do you know how many times I’ve seen stuff like this in some variation? Probably more times than when I’ve said “I’m sorry” when in bed with a woman AND THAT’S A LOT!
Sure we all want a nice person we share some interests with, get along with and hope for that spark that lasts forever but the bottom line is we won’t know who exactly that person is until God brings them too us. In the meantime God is having a good laugh watching us maneuver through the dating hijinks he’s created for us in his bad 80’s sit com titled “Dating is for the Birds”
What people need to be doing with their profiles is give us a glimpse into who they are. That’s how you find someone that makes your head tilt and say “wow I’d like to meet them.” This philosophy has really helped me relax this time around and take my time to see who’s worthy of my creativity in that initial email. Lack of creativity in your profile and this “generic view” about online dating isn’t helping anyone stand out. . . that and the pervs that bombard women with the rudest emails saying things like “I think you’re hot, wanna fu@#?” Yeah dude that’s really gonna get her hot. . . GO BACK TO RED TUBE!. . . YA JACK@$$!
This “generic view” I’m noticing in profiles works both ways. The women that do respond to my emails tend to have a personality you can see coming out of their profile because they’re giving me a glimpse into who they are.. They see and appreciate my originality in my email. Those with generic profiles never respond to my emails because my email is not generic, it’s different. That’s my theory anyway. If in your profile you’re a “Weekend warrior” or “looking for someone who likes to travel” or you “Live Life to the fullest” guess what, so is everyone else. But just like everyone else, you’re boring, one of the pod people. Show us you’re not.