I’ve sat on this story for a long time because I really didn’t know what to think about the situation. I’m sure there are women out there that do stuff like like this just to be mean but the women in this story are not bad people at all. Why they played “The Tease” is something I never understood. Maybe they were trying to be nice to “the nice guy” in their life. I don’t pretend to be a saint and I’m sure I’ve been “The Tease” in the past just like the women in this story. I’ve gone over this situation in my head over and over again and could never understand the logic. Maybe you women out there can help me out.
This has happened twice to me in my life involving women I had really big crushes on. The first one was an old friend from Jr. High and actually my very first date. A few years back she found me on Facebook and we started chatting. She was living in Texas with her kids and really enjoying life. Over time we had talked about her coming back to visit or me going there. We started getting close and I realized I was developing a crush on her. I know she didn’t feel the same way and did voice my feelings about her. I also know it’s just a crush and sure the feelings would go away eventually. I was realistic about the situation. Then she did something weird. . .
One night she started sending me pictures of her in lingerie saying things like “What do you think?” and “Thought you might like this.” My mind spun. Was she saying she felt the same way? After saying thank you numerous times like a cartoon dog who got that just got fed I asked her what inspired the amazing pictures. I never really got a straight answer. When I asked if her feelings changed she said no. . . so you see where I got confused. She had made it to Phoenix a few times and never told me. Eventually after a very heated conversation about the situation, still getting no answers to why she sent the pictures and no apology for what I saw as playing with my feelings, I cut her out of my life.
Fast forward a few years later another long time friend of mine came back into my life. We hung out a few times, she had a guy in her life, loved her job, everything was going great for her. Eventually her relationship ended and she started talking to me more. I really didn’t think anything about it. She even invited me to her house one time to cuddle on the couch. That’s when I started to think “Does she like me or am I just the safe guy to pal around with so she doesn’t go for a rebound guy?” I took it in stride knowing my feelings were just a crush and that’s it. . . then the pictures started coming. Even after I told her how I felt and she established that she didn’t feel the same way. But the pictures kept coming. Again I was very confused. I don’t recall ever getting an answer as to why she did it but it led to another heated exchange and another friendship broken.
For years I’ve thought about both situations trying to figure out what happened. Over the time situations like this have really taught me to be honest and put the brakes on things if the shoe was on the other foot and someone had feelings for me and I didn’t feel the same way. That and make sure you’re on the same page about the relationship before you send naked photos. At least I can say I've never just sent pics to someone who liked me when I didn't feel the same way.
So ladies, can you shed some light on the why? Like I said before they are not mean people. I know they were not being malicious but never understood why. Thoughts?