I know much of this series can be a bit one sided since I'm a guy and don't know what it's like being a single woman dating. Last blog I talked about online dating and it inspired this email from my friend Melissa who has been doing the online dating thing and had her own horror story to tell. Guys pay attention because you might learn something. Here is a day in the world of online dating from the woman's side:
"So, I signed up on 'eharmony' about a month ago. Have talked to some new people… went out with this one guy not this past Saturday but the Sat before that. We went and did some Karaoke, which was different, but fun! He kissed me on the first date…and that was ok. Then the following Friday we went to a movie and then for drinks after. Had a good time, he seemed really nice. I really didn't have any complaints. Then, I had an extra ticket for the Coyotes game Monday, because my dad ended up having to go to Vegas for work…so I asked this guy if he wanted to go. I knew he would, he's a hockey fan. So he picked me up from my house, we went to Native New Yorker for dinner.. He kisses me not long after we got there. We get our food, we're talking. He starts asking about my kids schooling. He started putting down the fact that their in public school. Because he went to private school, and apparently that is such a better education…whatever. I went to public school my entire life, and I'm doing just fine… Then, I had mentioned that I was a little bugged that my kids classes are both doing something for Mothers Day, but on different days…so it's going to be difficult for me to make it to both of them because of work. Well, that also got a VERY negative reaction by him…but again whatever…it was our third date, I wasn't going to let his opinion of me and my kids he's never met, get to me. So I changed the subject…then he casually mentions how he has Strep throat. WHAT THE HELL??? He just kissed me like 30 minutes ago!!! He acted like it was no big deal…since he's on antibiotics. I was sooo pissed off at this point.
This was all before the game. We left dinner, headed over to Westgate (there was no way I was missing the game even with all of that.). He starts getting very agitated in the car while we were in the long line of cars to find parking. There was people directing it all, and he starts honking at the cars in front of us as if it's their fault!! OMG!! That was embarrassing. We finally parked, went in. And I just couldn't seem to shake being irritated by him. So I told him he could go ahead and head to our seats, because I had to use the restroom. So I went and rinsed my mouth out again, and then and had a few drinks…thinking that would help. Went to my seat, and for the most part enjoyed the game that was AWESOME btw!
My friends were at the game in another section, but they left after the 2nd period, because my girlfriend wasn't feeling well. Which is kinda crazy leaving a playoff game early, especially when they're doing very well..but she's pregnant, so I understand. He's driving me home, and I mention to him that my friend and her husband left early because she's pregnant and wasn't feeling well. To this he says, "What is she like due tomorrow?? I'd of told her to call a cab!!" By this point, I was ready to open the door and jump out onto the freeway. What an ASSHOLE!!!
We got to my house, he follows me to the door, starts talking about how it's going to be such a long drive home (because he lives in Scottsdale & I'm in Goodyear) kind of hinting that he could stay at my place…and he goes to kiss me AGAIN!! No no no no & no, that was just not happening!! I gave him a hug, and said "well, it's a long drive home, so you should probably go ahead and get to it!"
All of this just made him seem so fake on the first two dates. And who the hell kisses someone knowing that they are sick??!! Really??
I was supposed to be going with him to one of his friends weddings this coming Saturday…needless to say, that’s just not going to happen.
*Brightside - My Co workers & I had a lot of laughs about all of this Yesterday! Since most of the guys here are married, they are very entertained by my dating stories. Especially the dates from hell! "
She followed up with this:
"The first thing I did after he left was dig through my medicine cabinet for leftover antibiotics & gargled the heck out of a bottle of Listerine…
There's the 2nd step on eharmony where you send your, 'must haves & can't stands'.. They give you a very long list of things to choose from, you can only pick like 10 of each of the characteristics..
This is like a list given as the most important things you want them to know about you first and foremost, in what they are looking for in a partner.
I have had several matches where the most important thing to them out of this list is to find someone with 'sexual knowledge'. Not the best first impression. I don't care if you're the hottest guy on the planet, if that's the first thing you're looking for, you're a goner. I mean, I think sexual attraction is important. But when it's the first thing that you're looking for in someone, just tells me you've got issues…
…If nothing else, the online dating thing is pretty entertaining..to me after I get over the shock factor of some personalities & everyone else wants to hear the stories as well!"
Who else has a horror story? What do you think?