I feel like lately this blog has gotten away from the notion of “Bridging the Gap Between the Sexes” so lets get back to the discussion and help each other out. I recently got back into online dating. I’ve done it off and on in the past, met some good friends, got some great horror stories but overall never really met someone I click with. With my schedule I figured why not try it again. If used correctly online dating can work for you. The problem is many people don’t go into it with the right mentality and in the end feel burned because they didn’t get big results. You need to look at it as a tooI and the only way a tool works is when you use it properly. I can look on my past mistakes with online dating, read the advice articles these dating sites provide, and improve my profile.
This time around as I look and see what’s out there I’m noticing things about the profiles I read that’s turning me off from them and seeing them in a different light. . . a humorous one. Here you go ladies, the things you’re doing to scare the nice guys off.
1. Smile Dammit!
More often than not I see the “I’m too hot to smile” look or the Duck Face. . .STOP IT! The Duck Face should only be reserved for silly pictures with kids or pictures from that girls night out. Outside of that, it looks silly, you’re not a Kardashian, you’re better than that. . . WAY BETTER!
Now onto the “I’m too hot to smile” look. Ladies I get it, you put on that look cause you think it makes you look more attractive and that look is what you tend to gravitate to on guys, the Bad Boy look. Well let me ask you, how did dating that Bad Boy work out for you? Oh that’s right, his cheating heart is the reason you’re doing the online thing in the first place. Try to think outside the box a bit. A smile will always get the good guy’s attention.
2. Status: separated
This one baffles me. Call me old fashioned but if you’re separated, you’re still married, who are you fooling? Separated tells me “I’m weighing my options, if I don’t like what’s out there I can always go back to my husband” I’ve learned this lesson the hard way. Being separated AND on a dating site also tells me commitment may not be your thing. If you want out, just get the divorce and move on.
3. Athletic and tone
For me personally, I like a woman with a little junk in the trunk and if she has a Latin or Hispanic flavor to her even better. But I don't limit myself to what I like physically because you never know what you could miss out on. I see alot of profiles that are only looking for athletic and tone out of their men. Really? You're on a dating website and you're going to be that picky? Remember what got you here in the first place. . . the Bad Boy with the six pack. On another note many of you looking for that may want to hit the gym yourself once in awhile. You may say that you are athletic and tone in your profile but a picture is worth a thousand words.
5. My Mix pictures
This was a lesson learned. The first time I did online dating I really didn't get anywhere. So I was a little curious and put up a few pics on the job at Mix. Women that turned me down came back. I got emails saying "I didn't know you were that AJ. I would love to go out sometime. . . yeah you might but I don't.
6. The “I’ll tell you later"
What is this? Why do dating sites give us this option? If you use this you're hiding something. Don’t believe me, here are a few examples
Status (options are divorced, widowed etc.) “I’ll tell You later”
Kids “I’ll tell you later”
Smoke “I’ll tell you later”
Drink “I’ll tell you later”
Are you Bats#!t Crazy “I’ll tell you later”
These are just a few of the things that make the nice guy move on. Now ladies I’m sure you have a list of your own when it comes to online dating. Maybe some of the things I see you see too. Maybe you can explain why you do things on your profile. What would you like to see?